RELATIONSHIPS ARE SPIRITUAL #2

REASONS FOR MISPLACED PRIORITIES IN RELATIONSHIPS:

Any Relationship that is not FULFILLING you is sure FOOLING you.
NOTE: Relationships are God's divine designs to fulfill His divine Purpose in our lives, our INtentions makes all the difference. Be Wise, Relationships are Spiritual, avoid insensitive & careless handling of your relationships. Pst Buchi Thomas

I love productive and profiting relationships, sure everyone does and everyone would love to keep the fun and sweetness of their relationships going. There are certain responsibilities expected of everyone in whatever relationship you may be in and these responsibilities must be rehearsed and renewed to keep the sweetness ceaseless, tasteful, and indeed an ever delightful experience. There are many reasons people behave in certain ways especially in relationships but whatever the reasons are, once priorities are misplaced there will sure be an outcome, plus or minus. 

Relationships can make or mar individual aspirations and more importantly collective dreams. This is simply a knowledge of priority placing in relationships. Most people have experienced displeasure and dissatisfaction in relationships and many others also have seen same happen to people around them, from close relations to friends and associates who are victims of relationship mishandling and abuse. The most discouraging experience I have seen in most relationships are that of misplaced priorities caused by sheer sentiments, poor decision making and choices.

Let’s take a look at the responsibilities that many handlers underrates and undermine in relationships as a result of misplaced priorities.

The Agreement factor:

Let us quickly look at the definition of agreement from unique dictionary authors; Agreement can be defined as a negotiated and typically legally binding arrangement between parties as to a course of action.

Merriam Webster definition says, it is (1a) the act or fact of agreeing by mutual agreement (b) unity of opinion, understanding, or intent; especially : the mutual assent of contracting parties to the same terms if they reach agreement

A concord of understanding and intention, between two or more parties, with respect to the effect upon their relative rights and duties.

Dictionary.com defines Agreement as bargain, compact, contract all suggest a binding arrangement between two or more parties. Agreement ranges in meaning from mutual understanding to binding obligation.

Yourdictionary.com says agreement means the act of coming to a mutual decision, position or arrangement.

The above definitions are all the same from different positions, the importance of the definitions are that agreement is connected to mutuality, unity, compatibility of purpose, bonding, respect and understanding of every opinion. God seeks our consent for a relationship despite being our Maker and Creator, even as the Almighty, yet He seeks for our harmony and assent, an agreement. The Scripture reveals how He stands by the door and knocks for whosoever will allow Him in, then and only then He comes in and make association and bonding with us. That is to me soliciting or requesting for a relationship. God respects and observes the principle of agreement, and this is because He knows that relationship must be mutual just as it is spiritual.

Stop imposing yourself on anyone and do not allow anyone impose himself or herself on you for sentiment or emotional reasons all in the name of wanting a relationship at all cost. Amos three verses three helped us in handling an example of mutuality differences and we must understand a template set in motion to enhance our individual lives by agreeing or agreement with ourselves. Relationship is for our collective interest and advancement and not despotic.

One of the area of concern I have always pointed out to many is that of agreement. A means of involving our common values, connecting our common aspiration, then make a resolution and establishing a common understanding for the benefit of all. For those in business related relationships, it is recognized as MoU, a Memorandum of Understanding.

Quit the desperation strategies and the fear of the future mentality that makes many believe if they don’t get desperate in fixing it or making it happen, that man or woman might just be the only best available and with this mindset, many have entered into erroneous relationships. I quote God’s Word again, the two CANNOT walk together unless they agree or make an agreement together. Desperation opens the door to deception. And a person cannot be in desperation and deception for too long, and no matter how long, it will eventually reflect its true traits. A clear case of disobedience that led to disagreement with The Maker was that of king Saul. Saul missed his relationship with God, instead of seeking for mercy and redress, he embarked on desperation strategies and he eventually missed it.

Doing the first things first helps us to have a healthy start in anything we do in life and also helps us to stay on the right path. Self-agreement is the first requirement to consider before embarking on any relationship. Making agreement first with yourself empowers you to count the costs and the coins before going ahead with any offer or decision. It enables you to know the worth and values, helps you see ahead and know what to expect and what to face. It also empowers you to build the needed capacity to undertake whatever challenges that might come by the events of time. Sort the process before you venture in it, learn by the Holy Spirit how to see the end from the beginning, take time to look through the MoU before appending your signature or give your consent.

Lack of proper preparations;

Preparation is the act of preparing. Preparation is the activity or process of making something ready or of becoming ready for something. You‘ve just got  to work it out, begin the diet plan, equip yourself ahead of time, begin the workout schedule, quit the fun killer habit and prepare for sweet moments because there is a link, a lifeline between preparation and opportunities. Preparation calls for observing processes and this processes is what many circumvent not knowing that the process prepares them for greater opportunities and even brings out the very best in them. I love the quote that says "too much of a good thing is worse than none at all", prepare more than being caught unawares. The deal is, provide reasonable tolerance for surprises so nothing will come to you as one, prepare to be admired and appreciated, prepare so you will not be priced low. Prepare! Prepare!! Prepare for the very best and not less!!!

Many folks aren’t prepared in all requirements necessary to build or even be in a sweet relationship, it goes beyond just dreaming about that sweet deal or that made guy. In most cases many are not equipped for the kind of relationship that accidentally comes their way. Ever seen a case where a low expectation meets a higher expectation and a higher meets a lower? Whatever is the fascination or connection, the two comes together fortuitously and the attraction might just be needless and pointless. Lured by the minor instead of the major and over time, the real deals are misplaced and carelessly mishandled when a proper definition can bind both together or put them aside to make the best of life. Don’t just bond, bonding without the necessary preparations can lead to bondage.

If God is a Spirit and initiated relationship that suggest to me that relationships are spiritual. And if relationships are spiritual, why approach it or handle it carelessly and recklessly? Why go into a relationship with the sense of lust and carnality, to me, that is ignorance. Remember how God lamented, My people perish for the lack of knowledge. Be prepared, be equipped for the very best, you sure deserve the very best.

GOD said you deserve the very best in life. He is Committed to making you His very best.

Enjoy your relationship in all areas of life in Jesus name Amen!

Kindly search the Part III of RELATIONSHIPS ARE SPIRITUAL here

GOD BLESS you richly.

Pst. Buchi Thomas